This thought
or let’s say this ‘theory’ has been doing the rounds in my mind from quite some time
now. Infact from a couple of years I must say. Finally, after much cross
questioning myself I have come to a temporary conclusion -
In your
entire lifetime you will have the chance to meet your true soulmate/s two or maximum
three times only! If you recognize that person the very first time, you can
consider yourself luckyJ.
If you recognize that person the second time around, you can be proud of
yourself for the rest of your life *Pat your back*. And if you manage to
recognize the person the third time (if there is a third time ofcourse), then
you can consider yourself very lucky and at the same time be very proud of yourself too!
At this
point and before going any further let me say -if you have never tried to find
a true soulmate, you have probably chosen a very different path for yourself
which is well beyond the material happiness normal people look for. I
will not dwell on that aspect here. Let us consider that you have actually
tried finding your true soulmate. In this context what does it mean if you
failed to recognize your soulmate the very first time? For me, it simply means
that you were not in touch with your ego. To recognise that one true friend-
this is probably the only life skill which no one can ever teach you. You can
only learn it if you are in constant touch with your ego - your strictest
judge, your best teacher.
Now, once
you miss that first chance, what next? How do you prepare for the second
opportunity? For me, again, the only way to be prepared for the second chance
is to recognise that you missed the first chance in the first place. But you
will never recognise you already missed one, if you do not look back and introspect.
However, I believe it is not enough to just recognise the missed chance. It is
equally important to regret it and truly accept that you made a mistake. Only
when you understand the meaning of regret can you stay oncourse with your real
purpose.
Regret in its
true sense is the beginning of a journey to retribution. A mirror to your Ego which you failed to see and
respect before. It is a seed of hope. Only when there is an earnest hope is
there a total determination to endure the wait. To be patient and seize the
next opportunity no matter how long it takes. When you do not regret in its
true positive sense you never attempt to change. And therefore you never really learn
for your mistakes. You continue to commit the same mistakes again!
I must say
again that I have only drawn a temporary conclusion. Temporary, with respect to
the numbers. Because I do not know if I’m old enough to be sure about the number
of chances that one gets. Only three? Maybe even four? Who knows!
PS: Don’t
ask me where I stand in my personal count ;)
