The theory about recognizing your soulmate

This thought or let’s say this ‘theory’ has been doing the rounds in my mind from quite some time now. Infact from a couple of years I must say. Finally, after much cross questioning myself I have come to a temporary conclusion -

In your entire lifetime you will have the chance to meet your true soulmate/s two or maximum three times only! If you recognize that person the very first time, you can consider yourself luckyJ. If you recognize that person the second time around, you can be proud of yourself for the rest of your life *Pat your back*. And if you manage to recognize the person the third time (if there is a third time ofcourse), then you can consider yourself very lucky and at the same time be very proud of yourself too!

At this point and before going any further let me say -if you have never tried to find a true soulmate, you have probably chosen a very different path for yourself which is well beyond the material happiness normal people look for. I will not dwell on that aspect here. Let us consider that you have actually tried finding your true soulmate. In this context what does it mean if you failed to recognize your soulmate the very first time? For me, it simply means that you were not in touch with your ego. To recognise that one true friend- this is probably the only life skill which no one can ever teach you. You can only learn it if you are in constant touch with your ego - your strictest judge, your best teacher.

Now, once you miss that first chance, what next? How do you prepare for the second opportunity? For me, again, the only way to be prepared for the second chance is to recognise that you missed the first chance in the first place. But you will never recognise you already missed one, if you do not look back and introspect. However, I believe it is not enough to just recognise the missed chance. It is equally important to regret it and truly accept that you made a mistake. Only when you understand the meaning of regret can you stay oncourse with your real purpose.

Regret in its true sense is the beginning of a journey to retribution.  A mirror to your Ego which you failed to see and respect before. It is a seed of hope. Only when there is an earnest hope is there a total determination to endure the wait. To be patient and seize the next opportunity no matter how long it takes. When you do not regret in its true positive sense you never attempt to  change. And therefore you never really learn for your mistakes. You continue to commit the same mistakes again!

I must say again that I have only drawn a temporary conclusion. Temporary, with respect to the numbers. Because I do not know if I’m old enough to be sure about the number of chances that one gets. Only three? Maybe even four? Who knows!

PS: Don’t ask me where I stand in my personal count ;)